Most of us have tried talking to our significant other, just to have it blow up in our faces. So how do we get around this? First, there is no perfect time to have these conversations. So just start. Doesn’t matter how or where, just start. If you are the one having the issue, remember that the other person has feelings too, but would want to know if they could be doing something better. No one likes to be left in the dark about anything. Second, BE REAL! Don’t try to sugar coat anything, but don’t be so harsh with your words that the other walks away. Remember, if you are reading this, you want them to stay. Be honest and open. Explain your side first. Explain what you are feeling, and how it makes you feel. Put it on you first. The other person probably doesn’t even realize how they aren’t making you happy. (Most have had relationships in the past that never communicated at all, or the other lied about the ones abilities.) By coming out of your shell, and being vulnerable, it helps to disarm the other and helps them to open themselves to what you are talking about. This can make things much easier. Third, after you have opened the conversation this way, it should make things easier for the conversation to flow. Listen to what the other has to say, and start finding ways to make it better for both. If someone is not up for what the other wants, BE HONEST! You can always work around that and find a compromise.

I have seen too many great relationships go down the tubes because of “bedroom issues”. Every time I speak to someone about their situation, I find it could have been resolved with a little bit of conversation. Is this an easy task? Not always. But showing one another that you care enough to broach the conversation says a lot about both as well as the relationship.